Saturday, October 29, 2011

True Breast Cancer Awareness

As October is coming to an end, I'd like to address something that has been bothering me and weighing on my heart and mind for quite a while now.

This doesn't pertain to hair, but it it pertains to women, and since this is my audience, I feel compelled to start this very important conversation.

The views I am about to express, will most certainly be perceived as controversial, and please, if you disagree with me, comment and we'll get a little debate going.  That's what blogs are for.

As we are well aware, October is breast cancer awareness month.  It's hard to overlook this.  Pink ribbons are everywhere.  All kinds of companies and businesses are giving their products a new twist and getting in on the marketing of "thinking pink."  

Last Saturday at the Virginia Tech vs. Boston College game, many of the players, along with the Hokie bird were wearing pink.  I think we can agree, it is extremely touching to see these big, burly men wearing pink, in support of something that affects women.  This is a wonderful cause that makes women feel loved...

But what exactly is "breast cancer awareness" all about?  What are we being made aware of?  That breast cancer exists?  I've never understood the message here.  The hooplah could serve as a reminder to women to get mammograms; but the correct term, I believe, would be "breast cancer support."  The ribbons, pink colors and uplifting messages are expressing support, and that's about it.  Every October, the breast cancer issue is highlighted front and center, and yet year after year, at the end of the month, women are no more aware of the true causes of breast cancer than they were the year before.

There is an alarming disconnect between the medical community and the rest of society.

Allow me to explain.

When I was working in Kentucky last year as a feature reporter, I covered the monthly health section.  I wrote story after story about breast cancer.  The whole community held numerous events in the month of October.  I had the opportunity to interview many survivors, medical professionals and those involved with support groups.  My stories involved a lot of research and statistics.  

I stumbled upon some startling information and noticed some disturbing patterns that I want to share. 

Here is my controversial opinion: No woman under any circumstances, should be on birth control By birth control, I am including not only pills, but also implants, shots, internal devices or any other product that interferes with a woman's natural cycle.

For that matter, no woman should be on fertility drugs, hormone replacement therapy, or any other medication that involves altering existing hormones or introducing synthetic hormones within the body.  Synthetic hormones have time and time again been linked to not only breast cancer, but also cervical and uterine cancer as well.

Doctors, pharmacists and other medical representatives will say this is only a matter of debate.  They'll say "links" are not proof and that correlations do not always show "cause," but come on... If all women gave up birth control, hormone replacement and fertility drugs, the medical and pharmaceutical industries would take an enormous hit.  These industries tremendously depend on women to consume these products.

This isn't a conspiracy theory, and it probably won't be a surprise to many of you reading this.  You've probably heard these theories before.  Just Google "birth control cancer" and you'll see an overwhelming amount of reading material on the subject.

Like I said, I've spoken with many female cancer survivors as a reporter and as the public relations representative for the Pike County Relay for Life Committee.  Sometimes, for curiosity's sake, I would casually ask them if they had ever been on birth control.  Most of the time, the answer was yes.  Another pattern I noticed was that many of these survivors were post-menopausal women who discovered a lump shortly after undergoing hormone replacement theory.  Go figure.

Whether you believe these drugs are the main culprit or not, the nature vs. medical intervention conundrum is common sense.  

Nature has a very specific design for women's bodies.  We begin ovulating when we reach sexual maturity.  Our monthly cycles follow a specific pattern, causing rises and decreases of estrogen and progesterone.  The period sheds the uterine lining, and we begin the cycle over.  When the fertile phase of our lives come to an end, we undergo menopause.  These hormones become depleted, our periods end and so does the chance for pregnancy.  This is nature taking its course.  This was always the plan.

When you rebel against nature, nature will rebel back against you.  When you introduce synthetic or non-authentic hormones into a body that was created to produce natural hormones; and when you interfere or prevent the natural hormones from being produced, there is a very great chance that the system of the body will malfunction.  It's as simple as that.

Whenever I hear a friend or acquaintance mention that they are on birth control, I try to convince them to get off of it.  This has made for some uncomfortable conversations, but if those women ended up getting a form of female cancer down the road, I would really regret not saying anything.  Do they listen?  Usually, no.  But at least I know I put it out there. 

I'll give the medical industry one thing.  They've really done a great job of scaring women to death into thinking birth control pills are the only way to prevent pregnancy.  It isn't.  There are plenty of other safe methods that are much less invasive and damaging.  Avoiding pregnancy is simple.  Step 1:  Know when you're ovulating (this method won't work if you don't).  Step 2:  Don't have unprotected sex when you're ovulating.  No hormonal interventions or alterations necessary.  (For very important cautionary advice about how to correctly use the fertility awareness method, please see comment 5 below this post.)

Birth control is also glamorized for being such a big part of women's liberation....Really?  I know connecting the pill to women's lib is great for pharmaceutical marketing, but how have women become convinced that this is so liberating?  If anything, it's completely counterintuitive.  Not only does birth control increase the risk of cancer; it also prevents or alters ovulation and blocks a woman's natural pheromones.  How can removing the primary aspect of femininity be liberating?  It changes nature's laws of attraction in terms of procreation.  It is stripping a woman of what makes her uniquely her.  

Other excuses I hear, aside from preventing pregnancy are, "Birth control helps with my acne" or "I have really painful periods if I'm not on birth control."  

Acne is unsightly. We all want to get rid of it.  But altering your body's natural hormones is extreme.  There are some excellent makeup brands out there.  I've had luck with Revlon Photo Ready Foundation.  Just match it to your skin tone, and you can cover flaws amazingly.  

As for cramps, yes, it's no fun to be in pain.  That's why we have Midol.  ThermaCare Heat wraps are also effective during particularly intense cramping.  Stopping periods altogether with birth control, or limiting them to only a few times a year?  While that may sound tempting, there is a reason you have a monthly period.  There is also a reason why later in life, periods stop and these hormones dry up.  It's simply not a good idea to disrupt a healthy functioning body, even though that body may inconvenience you.  Perhaps we as women should change the way we think about these processes.  Instead of interfering with it, take it as a reminder that your body is functioning the way it should, right on schedule, and be thankful for your health.

As a side note, I know many women are on birth control because their husbands/boyfriends want them to be.  But if your significant other is pressuring you to be on birth control even after you have explained the harmful side-effects, is this really a healthy, loving relationship?   When it comes to your life, you have to be an advocate for your own health.  Sometimes nobody else will be.

And while I'm on this topic, I'm just going to go ahead and mention some of the other harmful side-effect possibilities of birth control and other hormone-altering drugs: blood clots, which could travel to major organs or possibly cause a stroke, mood swings, migraines, anxiety, weight gain, heart disease, risk of miscarriage and even in rare cases, infertility.  Some women discover upon discontinuing birth control and trying to get pregnant, that their body can no longer go through the natural process of conception and pregnancy, due to complications resulting from years of hormone alterations. 

Let's spread awareness to all of the women we love and adore!  I would love for breast cancer awareness month to include anti-birth control rallies.  I would love to see pink events with booths set up, offering pamphlets on alternatives to these dangerous hormone-altering meds.  If we're going to call the month of October "breast cancer awareness" let's seriously make women aware and reduce this illness, which in many ways, is preventable.  (While we're at it, let's discourage the men in our lives from even considering this male birth control pill that's in the works.  This will inevitably lead to male health issues as well.)

I can only hope and pray that Breast Cancer Awareness month of 2012 includes much more actual awareness

Ignorance abounds, but all we have to do is spread the word and convince other women to educate themselves on female issues and embrace the natural plan set up for us.



Trae, supporting the cause at the game


Notice the pink arm bands and socks!


Three cheers for Breast Cancer Awareness!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Code Red


It's official!  I am now a redhead...and if you didn't notice, so is the Hair Hoochie logo.  Trae changed her to match my new hair, and she will continue to change every time my hair changes!

Trae and I went to Kentucky this weekend to visit some friends, and while Trae attempted (and failed) to squirrel hunt, I attempted (and succeeded) to go red.  I went to my old hairdresser RhiAnna Shell, who is an amazing colorist...if you can't tell! ;)  She has a gift for matching hair color perfectly with skin tone!

The thing with color is, no matter how well it is planned and mixed, you can never quite tell how the chemicals are going to react with the chemistry of your hair.  I had been using John Frieda Go Blonder, so I knew it may not go as planned since I already had chemicals in my hair.

The first attempt turned a dark maroon color.  RhiAnna added another chemical to lift the color, and I loved the result!  I've had very positive feedback.  People are telling me this color really brings out my eyes and facial features.  Even Mom loves it, and as I've explained previously, she's a hard one to win over when it comes to change!

I subbed for Mom's 7th graders today, and the kids were amazed!  The last time they saw me just last week, I was blonde.  They said they liked it but couldn't understand why I did it.  LOL! :)

I've heard red coloring fades fast, so after I had it dyed, I didn't wash my hair for three days.  I really wanted the color to set in.  All you blondes know, you can't get away with going days without washing hair with blonde...unless you want your head to look like a grease pit.

Anyway, I'm loving this change of going red for the fall!  It's too soon to have made conclusions of how the world reacts to a redhead, but that will be a topic for future blogs!  Oh, and did you guys know apparently redheads have a reputation for being "loose?"  I have heard the "feisty" stereotype...but I guess this gives new meaning to the word "Hoochie."

I'll leave you with pictures of my post-dye photo shoot with one of my very best friends and fellow blogger, the fabulous, Brianna Dale.  One of the best parts of dying hair a drastic different shade, is seeing how the new color looks with different clothing.  Bre and I had a ball shooting photos of one another for our respective beauty/fashion blogs.  Check her out, and follow her blog, "Bres Baubles."

 
Let me know what you think of my new look!  Does it suit me?  Should I have gone with a different shade of red?  Should I have stayed in the comfort zone of my own natural roots?  Leave comments!

Sunday, October 16, 2011

A Trip Down Blonde Memory Lane

As I wrapped up this last week as a blonde, I looked back and reflected on my toe head years.


My natural hair color is dirty/ashy/mousy blonde that has darkened subtly with age.  This color doesn't do much for my complexion.  It looks good in certain lighting, but mostly, I think it just makes me look washed out. 


100% natural
Yes, I know as the saying goes, "If you have straight hair, you want curly hair.  If you have curly hair, you want straight hair"...and I guess the same applies to color.  Well, in my late teens, I wanted to attempt a more glamorous, bombshell look.


Being a college student without much cash on hand, I opted for a cheap bottle of Sun-In at the grocery store.  Have any of you girls used it?  It can lighten any hair color, and trust me, it makes a drastic difference!  (PLEASE TAKE CAUTION: If Sun-In is used with other hair dye, it can literally melt your hair.  I've heard scary stories.  It can only be used on hair that is 100% natural.)


The chemical reaction is activated by the heat of the sun's rays and works best if used in the summer.  In the winter, it can be activated by the heat of the hair dryer.


My mother didn't think this would be a favorable look for me.


Mom thought the "blah" look was more preferable.
Let me set this scene for you:  It was the summer of '07.  We were on a beach trip with some family friends, and Mom was begging and pleading with me not to go any lighter!  I was already two or three shades lighter than my natural hair color.


A few shades lighter, posing with my sisters after a day or two at the beach


But alas, it was an itch I just had to scratch!


I saturated my scalp and all my layers from root to end.  I sprawled out in every position imaginable, seeing to it that Mr. Golden Sun was shining down on me at every angle possible.  Each time my hair dried, I continually dampened it with ocean water and repeated the process.


The result: Platinum blonde!  Like WOAH!


"You just look like a Playboy Bunny," mom said with scornful disgust.


One of my all time favorite compliments...although, I knew I cold only pass as a Bunny from the neck up.


Ironically, Trae was giving me "bunny" ears in this pic.


I enjoyed my platinum blonde for a while.  Then a problem arose.  My roots started coming in.  Try as I might, I could never achieve the same color.  Nothing compares to the summer beach sun.  The hair dryer just didn't do it for me.


Roots!  This look makes Sarah Jessica Parker look like she came fresh from the salon!
Finally, I went to my beautician, Sophy for some highlights and eded up looking normal.  Not bunnyish; but arguably, a more tasteful shade of blonde.


More expensive, but not as obvious when roots come in!
For those out there on a budget and not wanting to spend hundreds on coloring, I highly recommend John Frieda Sheer Blonde Go Blonder spray.  This would have been a great option for me, had the product been around a few years ago.  It can be used easily to lighten hair a few shades or to maintain an existing blonde dye job.


It is heat activated and is recommeneded to be used, for best results, with the hairdryer and straightener.  Like Sun-In, it works after only one use, yielding quick results.  The root problem can be tackled head-on, and it can be used with other dyes.  I have received many compliments since using John Frieda Go Blonder.  It definitely creates a salon look and saves a lot of moolah! 


From left to right: John Frieda Blonde, Salon Blonde, Natural Blonde
But like any lightening treatments, John Frieda can be damaging if overused.  I'll probably do a post one of these days on how to protect and recover hair from damage.  I'll have to do some research first though.  I'll admit, as much heat related styling and coloring as I do, I'm the queen of split ends.


Anyway, looking back on all these blonde escapades, between my natural dirty blonde, Sun-In, salon highlights, and John Frieda Go Blonder, I would have to say the latter two are my best and most practical for maintenance looks!
Spring 2007
Fall 2007
Fall 2008
Fall 2011
I want to hear your hair coloring successes, horror stories and funny misadventures.  Post comments below!


XOXO!


K.K.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Am I Seeing Double?

Hello hair enthusiasts!

I'm wondering if any of you out there have ever matched hair colors with a friend?

My best friend Stephanie used to have dark hair. I always thought we looked so sharp and complementary in pictures together! 

Well recently, she dyed her hair a light blonde color...basically the same as mine.

We've never looked alike in the past, but we do now! Our eyes match as well; so we almost look like we could be sisters!

Now let me just say, I'm not the type of person who gets mad or jealous if a friend has the same outfit, hairstyle, hair color or anything under the generic category of “beauty and fashion.” I grew up with two sisters, and we currently wear the same sizes in clothing and shoes. I'm used to sharing.

Besides, I think it's a great idea for friends, sisters, roommates, co-workers, etc. to get creative and inspire fashion decisions. Stinginess is limiting. That's my take on that!

But I know others out there feel differently. I've known girls to be territorial over their looks and act as if their personal style is trademarked.

So how do you fabulous females feel about hanging out with girls who match your look in some capacity? Do you feel threatened if a friend copies your hair color? Or... is it flattering to your sense of style?

Leave comments below!

XOXO!

K.K.


Just for fun, I had to embarrass myself and show this picture.  This is the epitome of a  "twin" friendship.  In college, my roomie and I realized we had the same unusual shirt with an acorn pattern.  We thought it would be hilarious to wear this to the dining hall...and it certainly was.  Lots of stares!   Don't judge is!  This was back in 2007 when baby doll shirts were very "in."  GOOD TIMES! :D  Birds of a feather flock together!

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Hair Hoochie Explained

I'm Kalamity Kendall, and I am a self-proclaimed Hair Hoochie!


What does this mean you ask?  I got the phrase from my hairdresser, the fabulous Sophy.


She uses the description in reference to women who go with the flow and get new hairstyles on a whim, not bothering to remain faithful to one hairdresser.

I LOVE this phrase. However, I'm using it a little differently. Hairdresser loyalty aside, a Hair Hoochie is a woman who dares to delve into different hairstyles and above all, experiment with different colors. She does it without hesitation, she does it often, and she does it with fabulosity.

As I write this blog, I am embarking on my last week as a blonde (for now).

Here's the thing. I've always been a blonde and have never ventured far from my natural roots, so to speak. But that's all about to change!  I'm jumping on the latest fall trend in hair and going RED!

But it doesn't end there. I will spend the next six months changing hair colors and documenting how the world reacts to me...kind of a social experiment of sorts.

Some of the issues I will address on this blog will include: how hair color affects how I am perceived in social and professional situations, how hair color can bring out other natural beauty features, how hair color can be complemented by wardrobe choices, how to choose the correct shades based on skin tone and eye color, how men and women perceive hair color differently, etc.


Above all, I want to expose how taking a small risk with hair can lead to risks with even greater outcomes or rewards and inspire us to live fulfilling lives of passion.

Going red is a BIG, DARING step for me. I'm nervous! I've never known life as anything else than “the little blonde girl.” We as women get so wrapped up in certain colors and styles, that it almost seems like hair color embodies our identity. But you know what?


 Hair color is a very temporary, easily reversible way to change things up. Sometimes it's healthy and downright liberating to step out of that comfort zone! This is what I hope my blog will prove.

For subscribers to my blog, I will aim to create that feeling of adrenaline that comes from leaving the hair salon with a brand new style and an attitude to match!

I will encourage you ladies all along the way, to send me pictures and stories of your own hair escapades! My goal is to inspire each you out there, to embrace your inner Hair Hoochie and splash a little color around!

XOXO!

K.K.